Public and Private
Pastor Ryan and Cathy Story
Can people tell you delight in your spouse? Can your spouse tell you delight in them? The beauty of the covenantal relationship of marriage is that it is more than lovemaking. Inside the marriage, there is service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship. A husband must understand that while privately he shows his wife tenderness, devotion, and friendship, he also must do this publicly as well. This goes for wives as well.
Song of Solomon 8:1 says, “Oh that you were like a brother to me who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I found you outside, I would kiss you, and none would despise me.” We read the closeness of this relationship between husband and wife. “If I found you outside, I would kiss you” is full of public displays of affection, and yet that is what a married couple should be. We have to focus on the “I would.” She is not saying she is kissing him, but she wants to. PDA is frowned upon in public, and that was also the case in Solomon’s time. All through Song of Songs, we read the “others” speaking of how much the bride and the bridegroom loved each other. Their love was publicly known, but they were not offensive with their love. Despite the fact that the couple was not physically intimate, the “others” could still tell that they were in love. Can people tell you delight in your spouse? Can they tell that your spouse is “the one that your soul loves?” (Song of Solomon 3:4) Can people see the warmth, tenderness, service, sacrifice, loyalty, and friendship that ought to exist inside of marriage? A great measuring stick to tell if you are delighting in your spouse is how would people say you delight in your spouse? Do they hear affirmation or complaining? Do people hear friendship or tension? Do they hear warmth, coldness, or even worse silence?
On the other side of this coin, does your spouse know you delight in them? Song of Solomon 8:2 adds, “I would lead you and bring you into the house of my mother - she who used to teach me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the juice of my pomegranate.” Note the phrase, “bring you into the house.” Inside the marriage, intimacy, service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship all must be seen inside the house, in a spot of privacy. The amazing aspect of this verse though has to do with the notion of the “house of my mother - she who used to teach me.” Inside of the home is an amazing place to teach children what intimacy, service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship look like. To rephrase that question, do your children know you delight in your spouse? While there are aspects within the marriage that are “behind closed doors,” an overflow of that delight ought to be seen by others, especially our children.
Pastor Ryan and Cathy Story
Can people tell you delight in your spouse? Can your spouse tell you delight in them? The beauty of the covenantal relationship of marriage is that it is more than lovemaking. Inside the marriage, there is service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship. A husband must understand that while privately he shows his wife tenderness, devotion, and friendship, he also must do this publicly as well. This goes for wives as well.
Song of Solomon 8:1 says, “Oh that you were like a brother to me who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I found you outside, I would kiss you, and none would despise me.” We read the closeness of this relationship between husband and wife. “If I found you outside, I would kiss you” is full of public displays of affection, and yet that is what a married couple should be. We have to focus on the “I would.” She is not saying she is kissing him, but she wants to. PDA is frowned upon in public, and that was also the case in Solomon’s time. All through Song of Songs, we read the “others” speaking of how much the bride and the bridegroom loved each other. Their love was publicly known, but they were not offensive with their love. Despite the fact that the couple was not physically intimate, the “others” could still tell that they were in love. Can people tell you delight in your spouse? Can they tell that your spouse is “the one that your soul loves?” (Song of Solomon 3:4) Can people see the warmth, tenderness, service, sacrifice, loyalty, and friendship that ought to exist inside of marriage? A great measuring stick to tell if you are delighting in your spouse is how would people say you delight in your spouse? Do they hear affirmation or complaining? Do people hear friendship or tension? Do they hear warmth, coldness, or even worse silence?
On the other side of this coin, does your spouse know you delight in them? Song of Solomon 8:2 adds, “I would lead you and bring you into the house of my mother - she who used to teach me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the juice of my pomegranate.” Note the phrase, “bring you into the house.” Inside the marriage, intimacy, service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship all must be seen inside the house, in a spot of privacy. The amazing aspect of this verse though has to do with the notion of the “house of my mother - she who used to teach me.” Inside of the home is an amazing place to teach children what intimacy, service, sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, and friendship look like. To rephrase that question, do your children know you delight in your spouse? While there are aspects within the marriage that are “behind closed doors,” an overflow of that delight ought to be seen by others, especially our children.
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